I've liked everywhere I've visited so far, but Freiburg is the only place that's grabbed my attention and said, "Wouldn't you just love to live here?!" I think I would. It's one of those ancient beautiful German cities, this one founded in 1120, or so Wikipedia tells me. It's got beautiful medieval buildings, but is also a hoppin' university town. The landscape is lovely, situated amongst hilly mountains and mountainy hills in the Schwarzwald, and the climate is supposedly the kindest in the country. The public transportation system is very nicely organized and the city itself is wonderfully environmentally friendly. The close proximity to both France and Switzerland is also a big plus. Just putting that out there.
I got up at 8ish the next morning to have some breakfast with the mother/wife segment of host before she went to work at 8.30, and was then surprised when I was still sitting at the table when the time came and went and she was still there, until she turned and said to me a little frustratedly, "So can we go?" I looked at her confusedly and she said, "Oh, you misunderstood. You wanted to stay longer. But I have to lock the house!" So grabbed all I needed for the day and rushed outside hurridly so as not to make her late. She pointed me towards town and said that the husband and kids would be home for lunch, but it would be best not to come back until they were all home again that evening. I was somewhat conflicted, because while I was so, so grateful for them taking me in so late and feeding me, I couldn't help but feel a little cold shouldered. It was just awkward. Really awkward.
So! I followed the path back to the tram as directed and went exploring. I headed to the Altstadt (old city) first and wandered around the pretty old buildings, though most everything was still closed that early. It was turning into a beautiful day.
Can you find the sad part about the picture below?
Here are a couple shots from around the church square. You can see the lookout tower on the hill in the first one.
A while later when I finally made it back, I met the twins and father for the first time and we shared a light supper. In contrast to the adorable but demonic children I'd encountered in one of my previous host families, these children were 100% adorable, or at least around strangers. The father made them practice their English with me and later, I was asked to help with bedtime stories. I read them a story in English about giant that helped keep animals warm with his new clothes and then the little girl read me Goodnight Moon, adorably pronouncing the words she didn't know as one would pronounce the letters in German. Adorable.
After the kids were in bed, I was surprised and pleased when the parents asked me if I'd like some wine with them. (Most of my hosts so far have let me try their favorite wine from their region - which is so grand! Getting into this project, I hadn't really thought about the possibility of a wine tour of Germany!) I'd felt better vibes with them since the kids had been there and decided to ask them to answer my German identity questions after having debated all day about whether or not to. They were very open to it and we had some good conversation on the matter.
I meant to write in my other entries about these conversations, but always forget until Mom reminds me. In Köln, my host had a much stronger regional sentiment than overall German national sentiment. She had been born and raised there and had lived there ever since, though she'd also traveled a fair amount. She also talked about how it felt to identify herself as German while traveling and how she felt most comfortable with her nationality when people made good comments about other experiences with other Germans. In Bad Neuenahr, the yelling children made it difficult to have any in-depth conversation, but both parents almost laughed at the idea of regional patriotism. They said they overall felt more European than German or Rheinlander, which is an aspect that was also brought up in several other families later and probably will be again. Wolfgang in Tübingen had a great love for his home region, while his wife said she didn't have a sense of home anywhere she lived after having been born in France and brought up all over the place. (That was a tough and touching subject for her, I think.) In Freiburg, my hosts talked a lot about the differences between different parts of Germany and said they thought their city was more easily inclusive of other cultures than in other parts of the country and made a big effort to work towards compromise rather than strife, unlike in other regions. They themselves weren't from Freiburg originally. The wife told me about the cold, withdrawn mentality of the region she was from and said that they had a saying there which said that a newcomer had to eat a whole bag of salt before they felt included, meaning it takes a long time. (Suddenly everything made sense.) It was a good talk and I felt like most of the awkward vibes had been remedied by the end of it.
I had to take a somewhat early train to Oberau the next morning. After packing up my things and eating breakfast alone while my hosts did things around me, I summoned up my guts one more time and asked to take their picture in front of the house, which I had almost given up on. I was again surprised when the wife refused and said she didn't want her name or photo used anywhere. Understandable, okay. The more easy-going husband agreed, however, so I scurried out in the rain to snap his photo. I liked him a lot, particularly after he gave me a book of local fables he'd written and illustrated the night before. Once that was done, I slugged Kassia's huge backpack on my back and made my way to the train station in the cold rain.
It was an interesting visit. Like I said before, I am so grateful for them having shared their home with me. I'm just sorry for causing them trouble or maybe making them feel uncomfortable in whatever way. Unlike all my other hosts so far, they didn't extend an open invitation to return.
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